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Not a Sack of Potatoes

January 28, 2017 by Shaila Abdullah

Passage from Saffron Dreams, relevant to current times:

The ringing of the phone broke through the silence at the dinner table. I had had enough of answering pestering reporters and funneling my way in and out of the building through them. They were all looking for one story because they had beaten the rest to a pulp. Muslim harmed by Muslim, how do you react?

How do you?

I hadn’t even decided in my mind how to answer that. Our commonness didn’t make a good enough story. Like a sack of potatoes, we are all lumped together. Incessantly. Insistently. Now that makes a good story. What was it the reporter from the Observer had said over the phone? He seemed nice at first, and I was amicable, offering all the answers he needed. About our lives, Faizan, his work at the restaurant, the enormity of my loss. And then the inevitable question came.

“Mrs. Illahi, being a Muslim, how does it feel to be attacked by your own people?”

If he were there in person, I probably would’ve clubbed him with the phone. Instead I inhaled deeply and formed a thought: I don’t know, Mr. Cloomin. Have you ever been in a similar situation? My voice had a sullen, monotone quality when I finally responded.

“They are not my people.”

“They have the same religion as you.”

No, they don’t. They don’t have a religion.

“Did you lose anyone in the events of 9/11, Mr. Cloomin?” I finally asked. My voice was trembling but icy.

“No, ma’am,” he answered. “I’m from New Jersey. Most of my family lives and works there. I was most fortunate.”

“So in the aftermath, you have not been on all fours at Ground Zero, looking through debris for a sign of your loved one.” I held on to my tears. I did not want to let on how fragile my world really was. “Examining fingers? Toes? Recalling from memory what your loved one’s limbs looked like?”

Ma gasped across the room, and I looked at her sharply. Don’t cry now. Not now, my stern eyes told her. I turned back to the phone. When I continued, my voice shook from rage.

“When you put all your potatoes in a sack, you should know they all have unique flavors. Some are rotten, some fresh. Just because they are clumped together doesn’t make them all the same.”

There was a shocked silence at the other end of the phone. The bitter pill of reality seemed hard for him to swallow.

“They are not my people, but I don’t think you are smart enough to figure that out.”

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Throwback Friday: A Moving Review of Saffron Dreams

August 19, 2016 by Shaila Abdullah

Saffron Dreams Book CoverI came across this insightful review of Saffron Dreams from 2010 which I feel is pertinent to read in today’s political climate.

Shaila Abdullah’s Saffron Dreams Reviewed by Deborah Hall, Pakistaniaat: A Journal of Pakistan Studies Vol. 2, No. 3 (2010)

Shaila Abdullah’s novel, Saffron Dreams, chronicles the journey of Arissa from Pakistan to America, from widow to recovered woman, from traumatized daughter then traumatized wife to a professional editor and single-mother devoted to her special-needs child. Her husband’s death in the World Trade Center on 9/11 is the critical event around which the plot of this novel pivots, but in the end, Saffron Dreams is a novel of hope from which we learn from Arissa how to deal gracefully and patiently with life’s cruel turns.

Abdullah isn’t so much offering an analysis of the misguided guilt-by-association to which Arissa  is subject as she is capturing a human story that happens to be about a Pakistani Muslim couple. There is one scene shortly after 9/11 in which Arissa is a victim of physical violence from a racist group of young men who follow her off the subway, harassing her and cutting her clothing. Once they realize she is pregnant, they run off.

In another scene, the hostility is less violent but shows cultural ostracizing. When a 9/11 missing persons flyer of an Arab man catches Arissa’s eye because he looks like her missing husband Faizan, she stops, mesmerized until she realizes a white man is staring with hostility at her:

“This one is mine,” I pointed to the flyer of the young man…“Which one’s yours?”

He stared at me in disbelief. “None,” he said finally.

I turned to leave.

“I am sorry,” I heard him say but I could not stop and answer. (87)

In this circumstance, one might understand how religious defensiveness grows into religious shame or how one might assimilate into the dominant culture as a survival strategy. In fact, the novel opens with an act that appears as a cultural (or religious) rejection of the veil. Arissa is walking to the Hudson River late at night. It’s been two months since 9/11. It seems like she’s going to throw herself into the dark water. Instead, she “grasped the cold railing with one hand and swatted at the fleeting [veil] with the other as the wind picked up speed…[she] let it sail down toward the depths,” (3). She muses about how this ritualistic unveiling might look like betrayal to a Muslim onlooker, but concludes she is merely shifting the veil “from her head to her heart” (3), but the larger, cultural explanation is that she is making herself less of a target in Muslim-phobic, post-9/11 America.

The characters in Saffron Dreams defy simplicity, but more importantly they defy Muslim stereotypes. One example is Arissa’s mother who has a love affair and abandons her family. Arissa’s siblings suffer through the absence of their mother, marry, give birth and move on with their lives. The mother returns to their lives through long-distance phone calls that Arissa will not accept. After missing Arissa’s marriage and failing to come to Arissa’s side during the 9/11 crisis, Arissa is not moved by her mother’s plea to resolve their differences. At the end of the novel, Arissa has the strength to absolve her mother of all obligations toward her. In an act that is horrifying to the mother, Arissa says there is no chance of a relationship. When the mother yells, “You can’t discard me like day-old trash,” (223) the irony is obvious.

In Arissa, Abdullah captures a female character who has escaped the typical confinements of her culture, using tradition when it benefits. Her mother is narcissistic. Her father is a liberal, educated physician who wants his children to be happy. For her younger sister’s happiness, Arissa and her father consent to the younger sister’s marriage before Arissa, the eldest female. While Arissa’s mother behaves in a way that cripples her children and severs the mother-daughter bond, Arissa becomes an example of self-determination when she uses the village match-maker to her benefit to match her with Faizan and an example of maternal devotion as she raises a special-needs baby as a single mother.

Once Arissa has moved to America with Faizan, a Columbia University graduate student studying literature, she grapples with defining herself within her marriage. Once her husband dies, she must struggle with overcoming her grief, living independently, becoming a good mother, nurturing her creativity and talent (finishing her husband’s novel as a tribute to him) and finding her womanhood again. The novel follows this journey from Arissa’s abandonment by her mother to her becoming a self-sufficient, artistic, sexually-mature, and maternal woman.

The novel’s unassuming and poetic style is more introspective than dramatically-rendered thanks to Abdullah’s artistic instinct which focuses more on the inner landscape of her characters than the tragic terrorist attack. At times, Abdullah’s dramatic scenes are both poignant and intimate. In this scene Arissa’s father tells his children, “Your mother has left.”  Abdullah captures this scene impressively:

The unnerving words echoed across the dining room and like a leech drained the surroundings of all air. The ear-piercing silence that followed became an incessant buzzing that wouldn’t go away. Like a bone, the joke we were laughing at minutes earlier got caught in our throats. Zoha’s hand, which had just lifted a spoon to bring it to her mouth, came to halt midair, and I saw her lower lip tremble. It could only mean one thing. I curled my fingers over her arm and gently but firmly guided the spoon into her mouth. She began to chew her cornflakes slowly as tears ran down her cheeks. Sian, 14 at the time, laid his spoon on the table on the side of his plate, wiped his face clean with a napkin, and escaped to his room without a word. (23)

Abdullah’s writing often captures the sights and smells of her native Pakistan with poetic lyricism. Describing the wedding of Arissa and Faizan, she writes that the separate stages in the wedding hall were “decked with red and orange batik covers and a flowery curtain of moghra (jasmine) and genda (marigold) flowers, a mingling of the milk and saffron of our lives, joining the ordinary with the extraordinary, a tantalizing fusion of mind and senses,” (40). Often during this novel, the smells and tastes are as rich as the colors of the “tie-and-dye print dupatta” used to cover the bride (39).

Arissa’s character at the end of this novel symbolizes a maturity and evolution that exemplifies one who has endured not one but many tragedies. While doting on her son Raian, she ponders how she might tell him about her native Pakistan: “I might…tell him that when you leave a land behind, you don’t shift loyalties— you just expand your heart and fit two lands in. You love them equally,” (174). The same might be said for a woman who must love again after having loved and lost. Saffron Dreams is an important American novel. The Pakistani-American immigrant story has not seared enough the consciousness of the American psyche. Americans often think that 9/11 was a singular American tragedy. Saffron Dreams reminds us that 9/11 hurt Muslims in more devastating ways because it stole their innocence and reputation. It allowed, as Abdullah says, “a lynching of a religion,” (155). This novel reminds us that Islam is based on “tolerance, peace and  bridge-building” (120) and the great many non-extremist Muslims around the world (dull, un-dramatic and ordinary as they are) get to define who they are and in what they believe.

As much as I’ve focused on 9/11 in this review, it doesn’t equal the measure of attention Abdullah gives the subject in her novel. She focuses much less. To be sure, Saffron Dreams is a love story; moreover, it’s a woman’s journey, and if I strayed from that focus it is because tragedy steals the show. But Abdullah’s instinct resists this very thing. The beauty of Saffron Dreams is that it celebrates common acts of humanity and reminds us that while loyalty and devotion might go unnoticed, they are examples of daily heroism. For that lesson, I’m grateful for having read this novel.

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Award, Interviews, Oh My!

January 27, 2016 by Shaila Abdullah

My Friend SuhanaJanuary has suddenly become the most happening month for My Friend Suhana. For those who don’t know, I wrote this book with my young daughter Aanyah Abdullah, and the story is inspired by Aanyah’s special bond with her friend Suhana who has cerebral palsy and is unable to communicate in the traditional manner.

We received word that the book won the prestigious Dolly Gray Children’s Literature Award. Suddenly we became inundated with interview requests. We appeared on KVUE TV (See the interview) last week and were interviewed by KUT for its Texas Standard program just this week (hear the audio at the 24:40 mark). The KVUE story was shared over 280 times and received 1800 likes. We feel blessed to have this opportunity to spread this message of love, friendship and uncommon bond with the rest of the world.

Suhana-Aanyah

Learn more about My Friend Suhana by going to http://myfriendsuhana.com/

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The Art Behind A Manual for Marco

February 27, 2015 by Shaila Abdullah

MFM-Email_v1_04Being a veteran graphic and web designer, I was excited when I landed a 3-book contract with Loving Healing Press with complete control over the visuals of each children’s book. What I didn’t calculate was what a tall task it is to deliver all three within a year. Clearly when I signed the deal and made the commitment, I didn’t factor in having a tween with a long list of school events and extracurricular activities and another child being 2 at the time. While frantically trying to complete the designs for books 1 and 2, I was hit with a splendid idea to tackle the art for the third book.

Due to a genetic link of sorts, many of my nieces, and my own daughters are artistically inclined. I decided to enlist the help of my 12-year-old niece, Iman in Calgary to develop the sketches for A Manual for Marco. Another niece in Houston––Sophia, who was 9 at the time took over the task of painting some geometric and organic background patterns. My own 10-year-old daughter Aanyah took a stab at creating some of her own background art. Not to be left behind, I handed some paint and halved onions and potatoes to my two-year-old daughter Aaliyana who developed some of her own visual conquests.

Now the challenge was to put them all together. Using Photoshop I scanned in the sketches and filled in colors. Next I brought in various pieces of background patterns and positioned them behind the characters. The result was something even I had not imagined. The art came alive and so did the talent of these gifted young girls. The book’s art is currently being widely recognized and praised. Layers_Artist_v1

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“Through her genuine, caring accounts about growing up with an older, autistic brother, this eight-year-old also shows her love for her sibling who is special but sometimes does things that are not-so-special. I highly recommend this book written with sensitivity and beautifully illustrated.” –Lorna d’Entremont, Special Needs Book Review

“A Manual for Marco is a ‘must read’ for families or friends of an autistic child. Abdullah’s writing is clear, warm, and accessible. Even the youngest readers will be able to understand autism. Abdullah has the ability to show love under the worst circumstances, even when Marco’s sister realizes her treasures are probably in the toilet. The illustrations are delightful. A Manual for Marco is perfect for younger elementary students.” –Gwendolyn Hooks, author of 17 books for young readers

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Top Ten Books Every Two-Year Old Would Love

February 15, 2015 by Shaila Abdullah

In no particular order, these books continue to be the most requested ones by our toddler––morning, noon, or night.

Theres_a_Wocket_in_My_Pocket1. There’s a Wocket in My Pocket by Dr. Seuss

I had stored this old gem away when my older daughter outgrew it. Found it recently and saw my now two year old fall in love with it. With catchy rhymes, crazy imagination, and amazing illustrations, this one is sure to please young and old.

Synopsis: In this silly Bright and Early Book classic by Dr. Seuss, a young boy goes exploring in his house and finds an array of fun characters! Are you certain there’s a Jertain in the curtain? Or have you ever had a feeling there’s a Geeling on the ceiling? From the pesky Nooth Grush on a tooth brush to a sleepy Zelf up on the shelf, There’s a Wocket in My Pocket will have young readers eager to explore their homes and the wonders of rhyming and wordplay.

“Dr. Seuss ignites a child’s imagination with his mischievous characters and zany verses.” – The Express

onegorilla2. One Gorilla, A Counting Book by Anthony Browne

I must admit that when we borrowed this book from the library and brought it home I thought that it would be just another counting book. Imagine my surprise when I was forced to read it several times a day by my toddler. After renewing it twice from the library, I finally decided that this one was for the home bookshelf.

Synopsis: What better attention-getter for small children than primates in all their variety? And who better to render them than Anthony Browne? In this elegant counting book, the author-illustrator outdoes himself with a vivid presentation of primates from gorillas to gibbons, macaques to mandrills, ring-tailed lemurs to spider monkeys. With his striking palette, exquisite attention to detail, and quirky flair for facial expressions, Anthony Browne slyly extends the basic number concept into a look at similarities and differences — portraying an extended family we can count ourselves part of.

“The key to the book’s impact lies in the dignity of a portrait sitting that Browne confers on creatures more commonly seen behind glass walls. Every face has a discernible personality. Even the lemurs are distinct individuals, with variations in snouts, eyes, and ears.” —Publishers Weekly

rhino3. Who Wants a Cheap Rhinoceros by Shel Silverstein

My two year old has a fondness for all animals. And who can resist a rhino who makes a great pet and plays peek a boo from the toilet? You will be in for a pleasant surprise.

Synopsis: Looking for a new pet? Bored with cats, dogs, goldfish, gerbils, and hamsters? How about a cheap rhinoceros? Shel Silverstein’s loving look at the joys of rhino ownership may convince you to be the lucky person who takes home this very, very unusual pet.

knuffle4. Knuffle Bunny Too: A Case of Mistaken Identity by Mo Willems

Knuffle Bunny, the first was a favorite of my older daughter. But my two year old found her comfort in the case of mistaken identity. 

Synopsis: Trixie can’t wait to bring her one-of-a-kind Knuffle Bunny to school and show him off to everyone. But when she gets there, she sees something awful: Sonja has the same bunny. Suddenly, Knuffle Bunny doesn’t seem so one-of-a-kind anymore. In the tradition of the Caldecott Honor-winner KNUFFLE BUNNY: A CAUTIONARY TALE, this is another heartfelt, hilarious picture book that children (and their parents) will love.

“Irresistibly funny, tender, and universal, this is another consummate star turn for Trixie, daddy, bunny, and their creator.—SLJ

polka dots5. Hooray for Polka Dots by Alison Inches

My toddler has a fondness for the Blues Clues book series. She especially likes this gem where Blue and her friends enjoy rides at the amusement park.

Synopsis: Blue’s class is going to the fair. Everyone looks forward to the rides, but some seem too scary–until Polka Dots comes to the rescue. Simple words and rebus icons are perfect for emerging readers. Full color.

 

todd6. ToddWorld: Let’s Play Together by Todd Parr

My toddler goes wild for this touch and feel book that uses both her senses and her imagination.

Synopsis: Come join Todd and his friends for a fun-filled day in ToddWorld! Find out all about the things they like bestand the games they like to play together. Every colorful page is packed full of interactive elements. Todd Parr has created 22 books for children, as well as his own animated TV show, from which books, DVDs, and plush toys have been developed.

shel7. Where the Sidewalk Ends: Poems and Drawings by Shel Silverstein

This one was a major surprise for me. Most kids get introduced to Shel’s brilliant poetry in early elementary. We had this book lying around the house and when we read her a few lines from it, my toddler fell in love with it. She doesn’t get bored with too many words or the sparse drawings not typical of other books her age level.

Synopsis: Come in . . . for where the sidewalk ends, Shel Silverstein’s world begins. You’ll meet a boy who turns into a TV set, and a girl who eats a whale. The Unicorn and the Bloath live there, and so does Sarah Cynthia Sylvia Stout who will not take the garbage out.

head8. Head to Toe by Eric Carle

From head to toe, this book will delight toddlers. The catchy rhythm would make them tap their toes, do donkey kicks and thump their chest, animal style.

Synopsis: Just as alphabet books introduce the very young child to letters and simple words, From Head to Toe introduces the basic body parts and simple body movements. And in the same way that children progress from understanding simple words to reading and writing sentences and stories, so they will progress from simple body movements to dancing, gymnastics, and other sports and activities, with confidence and pleasure. Eric Carle’s colorful collages have delighted children for more than a generation. Each book provides hours of fun while encouraging them to stretch their imaginations.

“As the artist’s collages emulate animal movements, children will ‘eagerly clap, stomp, kick and wriggle their way through these pages.” —Publishers Weekly

51BMvfzo44L._SX258_BO1,204,203,200_9. Te Amo, Bebé Little One by by Lisa Wheeler 

I recalled borrowing this old classic multiple times from the library when my older daughter was little. This time around, we bought it to grace our toddler’s bookshelf. The transition of a baby to toddlerhood is told in rhythmic text enriched by cultural nuances. 

Synopsis: The pleasing, rhythmic text of this mother-child love story features rich Mexican imagery and a charming refrain. The sweet illustrations, following a mother and child from the baby’s birth to his first birthday, bring the fiestas and mariachis resoundingly to life. Perfect for lap-sharing at bedtime or anytime, this enchanting book lends itself to reading aloud again and again!

“The rhythmic words and the bond between parent and child make this a great first book for babies everywhere.”  —Hazel Rochman, American Library Association.

download10. Silly Willy by Maryann Cocca-Leffler

Although this is a picture reader, my toddler immediately connected with Willy’s silly dress up game. A must have for laughs. 

Synopsis: Silly Willy loves to get dressed in a most bizarre fashion–he puts pants on his head, socks on his ears, and the rest of his clothes in unusual places–in a zany tale combining rebus pictures with simple vocabulary to reinforce beginning reading skills.

 

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Book Tour for A Manual for Marco

February 11, 2015 by Shaila Abdullah

MFM-Email_v1_04Join us as we kick off a month-long tour of A Manual for Marco.

Book synopsis

An eight-year old girl decides to make a list of all the things she likes and dislikes about dealing with her autistic brother, and in doing so realizes that she has created A Manual for Marco.

Tour Dates

February 16 – Reading Addiction Blog Tours – Kick Off
February 16 – Author Candy O’Donnell – Guest Post
February 17 – Momma Bears Book Blog – Spotlight
February 18 – What is That Book About – Guest Post
February 19 –Bound 4 Escape – Review
February 20 – Mythical Books – Interview
February 21 – Books Direct – Review
February 22 – Beppe DM Books Blog – Interview
February 23 –Fictional Real World – Review
February 24 – My Devotional Thoughts – Review
February 25 – The Indie Express – Spotlight
February 26 – A Life Through Books – Spotlight
February 27 – Chosen By You Book Club – Guest Post
March 2 – Texas Book Nook – Spotlight
March 3 – My Reading Addiction – Spotlight
March 4 – Gabina49 – Review
March 5 – IEquals Alissa – Interview
March 6 – Satin’s Bookish Corner – Review
March 9 – Paranormal Romance and Authors That Rock – Review
March 10 – RABT Reviews – Wrap Up

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Six Things To Know Before Inviting an Autistic Child Over for a Playdate

February 7, 2015 by Shaila Abdullah

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  1. I am a person with a name, not just a condition. Act normal with me.
  2. Scary as it might be for you, if I am having a moment of anxiety, give me some space and a quiet place to work it out. I am usually able to deal with it much better when I don’t have too many distractions.
  3. Don’t be offended if I don’t hug you back. I don’t mind shaking hands, though.
  4. Don’t worry if you serve items I shouldn’t eat. Remember that I am smart enough to check labels and ask.
  5. When I come over to play, you can ask my parents to let you know what toys and games I like. I am a much better guest when I am around familiar objects.
  6. If you change plans at the last minute, see if you can give me a heads up. It always helps.

– Marco

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Saffron Dreams as a Foundation for Empathy and Social Skills

January 29, 2015 by Shaila Abdullah

Another reference to the Washington and Lee University research study done on Saffron Dreams, this time by the Association of Psychological Science Observer. See an excerpt below:

According to a study led by psychology researcher Dan Johnson, the exploration of fictional characters’ inner lives may even help counter certain racial, ethnic, and cultural biases. Johnson, an assistant professor of psychology at Washington and Lee University, assigned a subset of 68 study participants to read an excerpt from the 2009 novel Saffron Dreams by Shaila Abdullah. The story’s protagonist, a counter-stereotypical Muslim woman, is attacked by a group of male teenagers who spew racial and ethnic slurs at her. The other participants simply read a synopsis of the excerpt, devoid of descriptive prose and dialogue.

Next, the researchers showed the participants a series of pictures of ambiguous-race faces and asked them to rate them as either Arab, Caucasian, mixed but mostly Arab, or mixed but mostly Caucasian.

The participants who read the actual excerpt were more likely than the synopsis readers to categorize people as mixed race, rather than identifying them as either Arab or Caucasian. In essence, racial categories became less salient for them after they read Abdullah’s story.

In a second experiment, Johnson and his colleagues recruited 110 students online and had them read either the excerpt of the novel, a brief synopsis, or a separate piece about the history of the automobile. Afterwards, the participants viewed 12 images of the ambiguous-race faces expressing varying levels of anger. Again, the students were asked to assign each face to one of the same four categories used in the earlier study. Participants who read the synopsis or the history piece tended to categorize the most intensely angry faces as Arab. But those who read Abdullah’s narrative showed no such bias.

This led Johnson and his team to conclude that artfully written, evocative fiction helps people identify with characters from different cultures — and thus disrupts readers’ tendency to stereotype and judge.

Read more
http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/publications/observer/2014/september-14/literary-character.html

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Blog Tour for Rani in Search of a Rainbow Begins November 19

November 17, 2014 by Shaila Abdullah

Take a look at the exciting lineup of blogs that are promoting my book from November 19 until December 19. Please join us:

  • November 19th: Starter Day Party @ I Heart Reading
  • November 20th: Promo Post @ Hollow Readers
  • November 22nd: Book Excerpt @ Forever Book Lover
  • November 23rd: Promo Post @ I’m an Eclectic Reader
  • November 25th: Guest Post @ Cassidy Crimson’s Blog
  • November 27th: Author Interview @ Majanka’s Blog
  • November 28th: Promo Post @ The Single Librarian
  • November 29th: Book Review @ I’m an Eclectic Reader
  • December 1st:  Book Excerpt @ Bookish Madness
  • December 2nd: Promo Post @ 365 Days of Reading
  • December 4th : Character Interview @ The Book Daily
  • December 5th: Book Review @ The Book Daily
  • December 7th:  Author Interview @ Deal Sharing Aunt
  • December 9th:  Promo Post @ The Reading Guru
  • December 10th: Book Review @ I Heart Reading
  • December 11th:  Book Review @ The Single Librarian
  • December 13th:  Author Interview @ Editor Charlene’s Blog
  • December 14th: Book Review @ PRATR
  • December 15th: Book Excerpt @ The Book Gazette
  • December 17th: Book Review @  Forever Book Lover
  • December 19th:  Book Review @ Bedazzled Reading

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Connections of the Heart: Reaching Out to Kids with Special Needs

November 7, 2014 by Shaila Abdullah

My Friend SuhanaHave you ever wondered what it is like to be trapped in a body that refuses to follow the commands of your mind? Now imagine a 7 year old in that situation. In the child’s medical file, a single label sets the course of her life: cerebral palsy. Sitting in a wheelchair, she waits on the sidelines at recess. Around her, there is the sound of life being lived to the fullest––kids chasing each other, running, swinging high in the air, playing hopscotch!

Except for her! Her arms twitch. Yearning to connect, to reach out to another.

A child walks up to her and takes her hand in her hand. Her new friend kneels down and starts talking to her. Engages her in nonverbal play. Draws a face in the dirt with a stick! Laughs. The girl in wheelchair gets excited. She wants to smile but she can’t.

Her friend smiles for her.

I am happy to introduce you to my children’s book, My Friend Suhana, coauthored with my 10-year old daughter Aanyah Abdullah. It is a story about a little girl who forms a close bond with a girl who has cerebral palsy. The little girl finds that through her art, she can reach her special friend Suhana. My Friend Suhana is targeted for children ages 6-8 years. The illustrations were also created by me, with Aanyah serving as a creative director.

My daughter, Aanyah, is the inspiration behind this project. Back in 2011, when she was barely 7, she wrote an essay in class about her friendship with a non-communicative girl with cerebral palsy. The essay touched me deeply, as did the friendship between the two girls. Art, I observed, played a major role in strengthening their bond.

Around the same time, I noticed an alarming gap in children’s literature dealing with disability, especially those that encouraged friendships between mainstream children and children with special needs. I felt that a book like My Friend Suhana would be instrumental in providing tips and tools for both children and parents of special needs children who often find it hard to explain their children’s disability to other children.

Hailed as “Highly recommended for anyone in the position of mentoring a beloved child through the hard places of life” by critics, My Friend Suhana celebrates special friendships and ways of reaching children with disabilities. Dawn Cruzan, president of Camp Craig Allen for all abilities lauded My Friend Suhana for its message of respect, friendship, and support. “As a leader in advocating for the ‘most overlooked’ disabilities, which sometimes include nonverbal communication, this was outstanding in providing these differences,” she said.

My hope is that by reading this book, children would feel equipped to connect and bond with children with disabilities. Not all friendships need words to be perfect. Some are connections of the heart!

Learn more and share My Friend Suhana

Originally posted at Special Needs Book Review on 05/18/2014

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